Every year I have students whose social cognitive deficits get in the way of consistently showing prosocial behaviors. They are so used to getting attention in a negative way, it has become habit and really the default behavior. Instead of building friendships, they wind of annoying everyone around them. They feel that if some kids are laughing, then it must be a good thing (see my social stories available in my store about humor to help here). This strategy has worked well for me many times and I have another lesson available on Being a Friend or Bothering a Friend. This is just another option that I use in conjunction with the other lesson. I always use perspective taking and thought bubbles to show what the peers are thinking. In this story I go into social memory as well to remind student that their peers will remember the uncomfortable things they
have done in the past. The t-chart is great for printing out and laminating. I actually often put a magnetic clip on my desk or the student’s desk with this as a constant reminder or a tool easily accessible for pre-correcting before recess or lunch.
Also the simple verbal prompt, “BEING A FRIEND or BOTHERING A FRIEND?” works well. I like to pause and rewind and prompt my student to try again with something from the BEING A FRIEND side – helping to change those neuropathways!