“Choices” posits that human essential dimensions include the physical, the mental (psycho-social), and the spiritual. Emotions are functional aspects, indicators of mental needs. “Choices” maintains that all feelings indicate the status of our needs. For the sake of clarity, “Choices” discusses physical sensations, mental emotions, and spiritual affections with regard to feelings in each of these essential dimensions. Since our endocrine and nervous systems produce all our feelings chemically, we must not a couple of things. The same or similar feelings may indicate more than one need. Pictures and perceptions may produce feelings, as well as needs may produce feelings. Things that we take into our bodies, ingested, injected, or absorbed, may generate feelings that mask a legitimate need. Because of these complexities, emotions create problematic issues for us. This lesson begins a new section that explores the emotional indicators of mental and spiritual needs.
Objectives: The students will
1. Take part in a game that will heighten sense of need for other persons
2. Explore the kinds of feelings and thoughts that indicate they are or are not meeting their love need
3. Will affirm that feelings and emotions tell us whether we are meeting our needs
4. Recognize that the same or similar feelings and thoughts may indicate something other than unmet love need
5. Identify points at which they feel they have and have not met their love need
Things to Think About:
1. Love is one of our most important needs. Love relates to the ultimate value of the individual.
2. Love recognizes, acknowledges, and affirms the ultimate value of persons. Love is an action we choose.
3. To meet our love need adequately, we must have the assurance of our own ultimate value and the ultimate value of all other people.
4. The emotion we call “love,” one of the most powerful human feelings, is the emotional indicator of meeting love need.
5. The deliberate action, love, adds nothing to the value of the object of love. Love simply affirms the value that every person possesses.
1. All feelings (physiological sensations, mental emotions, spiritual affections) indicate something about our needs. Comfortable, pleasant, and desirable feelings indicate that we are meeting our needs, and uncomfortable, unpleasant, and undesirable feelings indicate that we are not meeting our needs. We often experience both comfortable and uncomfortable feelings in anticipation of meeting our needs or facing deprivation of our needs.
2. The emotions we identify as love are not actually love. They simply indicate that we are meeting our love need or that we anticipate meeting our love need.
3. Effective need-meeting behavior does not pursue feelings. Our most effective need-meeting behaviors follow thought pictures that we judge to provide the best way to meet a specific identified need. A pleasant or comfortable feeling will follow, but our best behavior will not be feeling driven.
4. We can distort our feelings and emotions through poor health and dietary practices, drug and alcohol consumptions, stress, need deprivation, etc. We can often attain desirable feelings without meeting our needs, and thereby, we mask our needs. We will sometimes attempt to meet one need with behaviors that is more appropriate for meeting another need. For example, some people experiencing love need deprivation will eat so-called “comfort foods” in an attempt to attain some level of satisfaction.
5. Choices defines love as action that affirms the worth and value of a person, place, or thing. Humans have innate ultimate value by virtue of being human. Love does not add to the value of a person; love accentuates a person’s value. Absolutely nothing can reduce the value of an individual.