Tweens and teens often stress or worry about things that are totally outside their control. This makes for a lot of undue strong negative feelings. This social story talks about the different 'spheres of control'. We talk about things in the past being absolutely out of your control and how putting your energy toward that does nothing. I like to use the saying, "work smarter not harder" when explaining this to my students. A diagram is included for you to work with your student on what they actually can control. We also like to talk about the term "social conventions" at school to introduce the idea that there are somethings in society that we can't change but have to live with. These include talking respectfully to the teacher, having to do homework and going to school. You don't have to like them or agree with them, but you have to abide by them. We go into detail with BEING RESPECTFUL TO TEACHERS. I often have students who don't feel what they do is disrespectful, so we explain these as social conventions. This technique has typically given me some in-roads with my students. The last page is a reflection sheet for your student to process how they do on their "issues"- is it something they can control? or is it a social convention? I typically have to do this with my student for a while (P= prompted/ + = independent) and keep data collected at the same time.