This is a set of cards that I made for my son to show him and explain to him what his behavior looks like when he is communicating with me. So these are visuals of a child (boy and girl):
and then a Content Child and an Out of Control Child.
I use these cards preventatively and as a debrief once my son has settled down. We talk about how when he acts negatively toward me with his face, voice, and body then I can not help him, but when he communicated pleasantly then I love to help him.