It’s easy to blame a feeling for poor behavior. Often bad choices in words and/or actions are attributed to a negative feeling.
For example: “I yelled because I was mad.” or “I didn’t do my work because I was confused.”
This puts the blame on the feeling instead of taking personal responsibility. Understanding that we have control over our responses is one of the first steps in emotional maturity.
While emotions can lead to sense of being out of control, we always have a choice in how what we say and do. Controlling how we respond is not always easy. It is a skill that requires understanding of how we are feeling, how our words and actions affect others, and the ability to identify and execute healthy responses.
The material in this packet enables kids to explore the choices they make when experiencing a variety of feelings. Target specific feelings or create a journal to help kids process their reaction to feelings and to plan productive ways to respond to their reaction.
ASCA Mindsets & Behaviors
M 1. Belief in development of whole self, including a healthy balance of mental, social/emotional and physical well-being
M 5. Belief in using abilities to their fullest to achieve high-quality results and outcomes
B-LS 1. Demonstrate critical-thinking skills to make informed decisions
B-SMS 1. Demonstrate ability to assume responsibility
B-SS 1. Use effective oral and written communication skills and listening skills
B-SMS 2. Demonstrate self-discipline and self-control
B-SMS 7. Demonstrate effective coping skills when faced with a problem
B-SS 8. Demonstrate advocacy skills and ability to assert self, when necessary
B-LS 9. Gather evidence and consider multiple perspectives to make informed decisions
B-SMS 9. Demonstrate personal safety skills B-SS 9. Demonstrate social maturity and behaviors appropriate to the situation and environment