This lesson was inspired by the Center for Non Violent Communication (https://www.cnvc.org). By being able to identify one's own feelings and needs, it makes it much easier to have empathy for how others are feeling and what they are needing. This is a simplified version of the Feels and Wants inventory on CNVC along with a worksheet to help children understand themselves and others, promote emotional development, resolve conflict, and improve social skills.
Provide the children with the Feelings and Needs worksheet first and have them think of a conflict they had with someone in their life. Next, help them identify how they felt and what they needed from the other person they had a conflict with. They can color and/or cut out the feelings and needs they identify with and paste them into the right spot. Explain that there are good feelings when one's needs are met, and bad feelings when your needs are not met. Next, find out what they they the other person felt and needed.
Follow up with the What I Will Say Next Time worksheet (included). This encourages them to use "I-messages," otherwise known as saying how you feel from your own perspective without casting blame onto the other person. It simply informs of them of your feelings when they do certain things, and lets them know what you need instead. See the example below:
I feel _____
when you _______
What I need is _____________
In addition to the provided sheets of Feelings and Needs, I have also added a blank sheet of each so they are customizable.