Both my students and their parents are less disciplined each year. This slideshow video seeks to coach parents how to run a tighter ship. Here is the text:
I’m Dana Keller. My wife and I have raised two kids, and I have taught for 23 years. And here is my advice about how to help your child get the most out of school.
Kids must know that, yes, school is just another institution, but it’s an institution that offers amazing opportunities. Learning is the primary key to all success. That good education emancipates a person’s future.
If your child asks you, “When am I ever going to use this” respond, “Hey, when does anybody use the bench press or a run on the treadmill or a hack squat? But the fitness gained from those activities makes a person stronger and more able to face the world. Education is exactly the same. It’s not about whether one might use specific knowledge here or there; it’s about becoming a far more sophisticated and able person in the world. Successful people use that every day.
High standardized test scores are almost always an indicator of high intelligence or high ability, but mediocre—and even low--standardized test scores very often mean nothing about a child’s ability or intelligence. In medical terms, standardized tests have many false negatives.
Our children are entitled to nothing. They should worry more about working for goals and about what they can contribute. Empowerment comes only through hard work, maturity, and time.
There is no excuse for poor performance in school, but school is not the only place where humans learn and grow.
Children must be required to go to school.
Kids must separate needs from wants--and learn that wants can wait.
Children must be accountable; they must fight their own battles. Parents must coach from behind and only move to the front when they actually needed.Parents should step in only when a child gets in over their head.
Children should be trusted, but what they say should be confirmed.
Children are 100% in control of and accountable for their own behavior.
Kids must accept the onus for their own education. Learning is about more than just doing the assigned work and waiting for results.
In the face of a crisis, like death, divorce, injury, or sickness, children must learn that they are in charge of whether they fall apart or carry on.
Our sons must be kind and compassionate, and our daughters strong and feisty.
Children must learn that becoming educated is more about attacking one’s weaknesses than it is hiding from them.
If a child has a disability, he or she must take responsibility for build strengths around the weak spot.
Similarly, while some of us are born with Ferrari brains, most of us just aren't, and some of us have brains that struggle. Children must learn to maximize whatever potential they were gifted.
Kids should only be praised when they really dig deep or step up. General civility, success, and benevolence are expected.
Children need fair but straightforward and honest criticism.
Unless they need a favor, children should not have done for them anything that they can do for themselves.
Children should do their own school work.
Kids must know that honor still matters. Like learning or hard work, honor is its own reward.
Children must learn that there are two days in a person's life. The day they are born. And the day they discovers why.