“Choices” teaches that we need control and defines control as the management of power through the management of one’s self. Control plays a major role in the meeting of needs in that we must control something to meet any need.
From our beginning as modern humans, we have had problems with control. All frustration, anger, arguments, conflicts, fights, and wars involve control issues. At some point, all disruptions in human relationships involve control issues. “Choices” makes the basic assumption that each of us can control ourselves and no one can control us but ourselves.
Lesson Objectives: The students will
1. Experience their need for control
2. Define control in terms of internal factors of controlling thoughts (pictures) and choices
3. Explain external control in terms of appropriate environmental manipulation to meet valid needs
4. Take part in an activity that will dramatize control and power limitations
5. Experience internal control as a self-declaration
1. Human beings have a basic need for strength, power, and control.
2. We can only meet this need by controlling our thoughts, choices, beliefs, and actions that best meet our total needs package. We can control our thoughts (pictures), choices, beliefs, and actions. When we control these, we control our behavior.
3. We must have this internal control before we can exert effective and appropriate control externally. This means that appropriate control follows a process from internal to external. We must exert appropriate external control to meet our total needs package.
4. When pictures for meeting a particular need do not produce a behavior that meets that need appropriately, all human beings tend to reverse the control process attempting to control externally first. For example, if I have a picture that giving someone a gift will make them like me (to meet my love need), and the person rejects my gift, I may say something ugly to them in an attempt to gain some control in the situation.
This reversal of the control process, trying to gain control from the outside in, constitutes the primary basis of human problems, especially relationship problems. The reversal of this process produces the vast majority of human emotional, mental, and behavioral problems.