Making friends is a learned skill. Most typically developing kids learn this skill vicariously and by simply being around others. Kids that have social skills deficits may need explicit teaching of how to make friends. However, most kids simply do
not like to be told how to do it by an adult. This social story comes from the perspective of the child’s peers and shows explicit examples in school environments. We use thought bubbles to understand what peers might be thinking. We talk about EXPECTED behavior and good thoughts and weird thoughts. The discussion of how to show interest in others is one of the main underlying themes. Specific examples are given along with a series of fill in the blank talking bubbles for your student to practice. At the end, the lesson is summarized in a social path of showing what happens
when you do what is EXPECTED when trying to make friends versus doing what is UNEXPECTED and it’s consequences. When a student does not have this skill, they can get very frustrated and give up, by saying, “I don’t want friends!” or, “I
don’t care”! Remember it is our jobs as educators to teach foundation skills so our students may become productive adults. Not knowing how to successfully make friends can be debilitating. Don’t give up! Keep trying multiple methods. Yes, your student will probably rebel against it after awhile. Remember, you are the educator, not their friend. Stay the course! Good luck!