Teach teens how to overcome victim mentality and become proactive in their lives with this engaging, no-prep, interactive PowerPoint.
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A version is also available for elementary kids.
This is part of a new series focused on resilience & healthy minds for teens. In the future, the series will contain other topics that contrast healthy vs. unhealthy ways of dealing with life, such as:
Perfectionism vs. Healthy Striving
Fixed vs. Growth Mindset
Pessimism vs. Healthy Optimism
Overview of PowerPoint :
- Begins by explaining two different ways of viewing the world- through a proactive or reactive lens.
- Proactive people view themselves as in the driver's seat of their life. They focus on what they can control.
- Reactive people view themselves in the passenger's seat- driven by things outside of their control. This can also be called a victim mentality, because you being to see yourself as a victim in every circumstance.
- Students learn several reasons we sometimes choose to be reactive. Reasons include it takes less effort to be reactive, it can help us avoid dealing with problems, a false belief that giving up responsibility to others gives you more freedom, and learning to be reactive by the example of influential people in your life.
- You may also have been a victim of abuse or trauma and this can lead to feeling a loss of control. While these feeling are normal, without guidance it can develop into a victim mentality where you begin to not be able to see areas where you do have control in your life.
- Students learn the difference between being a victim and victim mentality. You can be a victim of something without developing a pervasive victim mentality.
- Three ways to become more proactive are presented including recognizing what is and isn't in your control, identifying and changing your reactive language, and taking ownership over your wants and needs.
- After practicing deciding what is and isn't in their control and changing reactive language, they will learn about 5 common proactive misconceptions.
- Myth #1: Being proactive means not asking for help. Actually, if a problem is too big to handle on your own, asking for help is very proactive.
- Myth #2: Being proactive means taking over others' responsibility. Actually, taking over responsibility of others isn't helpful. It leads to resentment and stunts growth in others.
- Myth #3: Being proactive means I won't be negatively affected by things. In fact, you will still be affected by things even when you are proactive. It's healthy to be sad. But you can choose to act better than you feel.
- Myth #4: I can treat people however I want, and it's their responsibility to be proactive and not let it affect them. In fact, being proactive is about taking responsibility and you are responsible for how your actions affect others.
- Myth #5: Proactive people can choose to never be a victim. You can choose not to have a victim mentality, but you cannot always control whether you are a victim to things like abuse, trauma, or discrimination.
- End with interactive review questions where students decide whether someone is being proactive or reactive.