I have a student who cannot recognize between when he is calm and when he has strong feelings. Inevitably he makes poor choices when he is upset and tries to talk to another peer or the teacher. Often times we have tried to get him to take a break, use a tool, or whatever we call it and he yells at us, “I am calm now”, clearly shaking and screaming. This lesson is to teach students that we show body signs (signals or clues) when we are upset. And when a brain is upset, it makes bad decisions. When the teacher sees things, we tell our students that the teacher is going to assist the student to calm or use a coping skill. She’s not doing it to be mean, she is doing it to calm them down. We also remind our students that they may be able to talk about the incident later, at the teacher’s discretion. That she will schedule a time for that and that it is the teacher’s choice. We have a t-chart showing a picture of being calm and being angry along with bullet points of the common body signs. I keep a copy of this in the quiet room/calm corner so a student knows what his body is supposed to look like before he can return to the group.