At a certain developmental stage, kids learn that it is better to tell a white
lie or not “tattle” on their friends, in order to maintain the friendship. Even though technically it’s wrong to lie, telling a small lie such as, “I don’t know who did that”, is expected amongst friends. A kid who constantly tells when “Steve is chewing gum” or “Sarah said a bad word”, will not win friends or keep the ones he has. Often a child with social deficits may not get this unspoken allegiance or “hidden rule” and we have to teach them. And there is a fine line here. You want students to report if there are acts of bullying or if it is a moderately serious offense, but the small
stuff, should go without “tattling”. Some things, like swearing and telling ‘mature’ jokes, though adults don’t like it, are a typical part of older kids testing boundaries. This lesson explains to students what they should report, should not report given some concrete and easy to understand rules. The “hidden rule” of not ratting on your friends is explained with concrete examples as well. At the end are 6 examples for your student to practice and for you to check for comprehension.