The Fault Finder
There are few qualities more admired than “taking personal responsibility”, because so few of us do it. We may be trying to avoid consequences or “save face” but what is lost when you are a Fault Finder is what is truly important.
"It's not my fault" is a familiar refrain to all parents and teachers. In an effort to avoid embarrassment or punishment, we humans typically try to avoid responsibility for much of our behavior. This is very typical in children. In some cases, they are successful in avoiding responsibility and this becomes their preferred "coping style.”